Don’t surrender your joy

“Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore.” -Cheryl Strayed Does this quote mean anything to you? This advice is so difficult to remember in the moment. Days, months, even years can go by in a flash. Our upset about what we didn’t achieve gets…

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Controversial? Perhaps, but also good advice. Part 1

Who needs to know the details of your family building journey? This is a really important question. Many people begin their family building journeys with hope and excitement. This enthusiasm may be communicated to family and friends because, it’s great news. Right? But then treatment may become stressful or disappointing, and then what? Don’t we…

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Are you being honest with yourself?

The fertility journey is difficult… there is no doubt about it. There are so many reasons why it’s difficult, but one of the primary reasons is because your heart wants one thing and life is giving you something else. How many places in your life are you not in alignment with yourself? Sometimes we do…

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Building your family story

Whether you are just beginning to build your family, or already have children with the assistance of donor conception, it can be difficult to know how to prepare to help your child understand their origins. We provide groups and workshops to help parents and parents-to-be find answers to their questions. We also help donor conceived…

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Can you manage your stressors like traumas?

The anxieties you have likely experienced over this past year may have felt like stressors, but it may be more helpful to think of them as traumas. Family building during a pandemic can wallop a double dose of upset and feeling out of control. Perhaps your experiences don’t feel like “real” traumas because they may…

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Stop the Whiplash

After all of the stress of the past year, everyone feels that the start of this new year would be the light at the end of the tunnel. We have had enough stress, heard enough horror stories, and felt enough sadness for a lifetime. If you are trying to build your family, these stressors may…

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Ground Yourself for the Holidays

Have you ever had the experience of getting off a carousel or amusement park ride and feeling like you’re still spinning? The natural inclination is to hold onto something or sit down. Your body is trying to ground itself. When you are anxious or when your world is out of control, your body wants to…

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Decrease your stress and change the way you look at it

It is important to decrease stress, but it may be equally important to change the way you see it. In a large study, researchers discovered that people who have high amounts of stress and a belief that stress will affect their health had an increased risk of premature death. How do you get around this…

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Don’t argue, check it out instead.

This is not about family building – but in a way, it is. It is important to keep your relationships in a good place. Whether you are parenting, or waiting to parent, this can be a very stressful time. Schools are starting and stopping, and who knows what will happen in the coming weeks. States…

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What’s faith got to do with it?

I can’t tell you how many times I hear, “I’m not sure if I should continue… Maybe it’s not meant to be.” Rubbish, I say. If you want to continue pursuing your goal, the process may not look like at all like you had originally imagined it. It may, as one patient said to me,…

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