Are you following a dream or a goal?

Before you start reading, you should know that what I’m about to write may sound calculated, but it is not; it is self-regarding. Having goals may sound selfish or ambitious, or may carry some other feeling that many can find unappealing. But the truth is, if you set goals about the life you want to…

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You are not failing

You are winning. During the past several weeks, you may have felt scared, anxious, sad angry or frustrated. This is a hard time for most people. As a result, you may have reacted in ways you don’t like. Maybe you have been snarky with your partner, snapped at your kids or ignored tasks that that…

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Making the Most out of the End of Summer

Girl doing yoga

Many therapists and self-help gurus agree that taking steps to change your mood can help you feel more empowered and happier overall. If we work with this premise, why not use the end of the Summer to press the reset button and re-energize yourself? Use experiences from your past and present to help you feel…

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Plan ahead: How to talk to friends and family about your journey

Family on a stroll in the woods.

Families who have non-genetically related children regularly confront many issues. One of these issues concerns the curiosity that many people have about where the child “comes from” or which parent a child resembles. As a result, parents who use egg or sperm donation or adoption to form their families often find themselves fending off unwanted…

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Family Stories

Last weekend I had the privilege of running a program called “Family Stories” at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center in New York City.  It was a wonderful workshop.  It included parts of our TIP TOP program for families who are built with the assistance of donor sperm or donor eggs or who…

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Emotions of Choosing an Egg Donor

FAIRFAX EGGBANK, December 20, 2017 Written by Lisa Schuman, LCSW, a seasoned mental health professional who leads The Center for Family Building. Join her virtually in her monthly support webinar, aimed to address issues specific to third party reproduction including disclosure, development, and parenting. Learn more about her webinar here.  So you want to find an…

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Give the gift of time

Give the gift of time and your children are more likely to give you the gift of willingness. Time is something we can not make more of. We take it for granted, and our children take it for granted, but whether we spend less or more time with our children can have a cumulative effect…

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Negotiate with your partner for a better family life

When you have children there are so many decisions to be made.  Do you feed on demand or on schedule, is breast milk important, is practicing religion important to your family traditions, etc..?  If problems arise the stakes get higher and emotions can become intensified.  The big and the small questions need negotiation and discussion…

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