What does Sara Blakely have to do with donor conception?

If you don’t know Sara Blakely, she is the inventor of Spanx. She created a company, now valued at 1.2 billion dollars, with five thousand dollars and determination inspired by an audio tape (yes back in the day) of Wayne Dyer declaring that anyone can be a “no limit person”.

Sara regularly posts her ideas on social media, written on mugs. This one spoke to me as it reminds me that, as our summer ends and leaves die, and the warm weather starts to fade, it is a great time to think about how we can change. How we can let go of what no longer serves us in favor of a new life.

We all cling to things we shouldn’t cling to anymore. I am guilty of that too. Holding on to old things, old contacts in my address book, old relationships that were toxic, and old ideas of who I used to be, could even feel comforting at times. As the years pass, and I let go of more of all of these things, I see how (hang in there -this may seem a little out there) bringing more of what I want into my life is easier when there is more space for it. Making the decision to make changes in your life and achieve your dreams can be the beginning of a new life, but if you don’t try to let go of the old habits, ideas, and attitudes of the past, it is very difficult to start life anew.

I believe that striving to achieve our dreams can bring us so much joy. And every living thing knows it. Babies strive to crawl, then walk, then run, and seeds grow and then bloom. If you desire to build your family, if that is your dream, but you are not able to build your family with your genetics, you may want to work on shedding the belief system of your past. You have your whole life ahead of you. It may not look like the life you imagined, but it can be a great life. Donor conception is rarely someone’s first choice, but it can be a great choice.

So, what would happen if you focused on what you can have rather than what you can’t have? What if you focused on what your life could look like rather than what it won’t look like? If you can let go of your old preconceptions, it may be easier to focus on, and strive for, a beautiful future.